3 Reasons Why We Shouldn’t Force Our Own Plans

If you’ve read some of my other posts or know me at all, then you may remember me saying how much I love my routines. I can become obsessed with making my routines happen every day, no matter what. Should something happen to possibly upset one of my routines? Well, let’s just say you should probably not be near me. THIS IS NOT A GOOD THING. I’m trying to work on purposefully changing a few of my routines so I can loosen the chains they have created. There are days though I can tell God’s trying to help me with this as well because things will happen that I couldn’t have imagined but that completely upset my apple cart.

Yesterday morning qualified as one of those times.

My morning started out great, I got stuff done, left the house nice and clean with dinner going in the crockpot. I got to work and went to make my coffee so I could tackle the list of stuff I had to do. Then, my re-usable k-cup broke.

“This can’t happen!” I cried.

Oh but it did.

I remembered there were k-cups of various flavors in the office, but I am very picky when it comes to coffee, and not only were these my least favorite brands, but they were also decaf. DECAF.

What’s the point of drinking decaf coffee in the morning??

I felt desperate for even the taste of coffee, so I figured I’d try one of them, then changed my mind and became determined and obsessed with making my ground coffee work somehow, some way. I tried all sorts of crazy things, none of them worked. I resigned myself to the kcups available and grimaced with every drink but stayed determined to drink my coffee in the morning as I did every morning.

Sometimes things aren’t supposed to work out. Sometimes we have to let go of what we expect, what we want and trust God is in control and knows best. This is only the about the hundredth time God has tried to teach me this lesson of letting go of what I want. The coffee incident is a funny anecdote for this lesson with no consequences from my stubborn determination. However, I’ve experienced time in my life with consequences that still haunt me.

Goofy Ignorance

I worked as a merchandise cast member during my Disney College Program. The best part of this role is you can switch shifts with other cast members who work in different stores and parks. I switched shifts a lot and found my favorite place to work was at Hollywood Studios. The Studios weren’t my home base, but they became my home nonetheless. My main site to work though was the World of Disney or WOD for short. I HATED IT! 

Okay, that was a hasty statement, I did experience a few good moments there, but more just hard lessons. When my program extended, they gave me the option to be placed in a new home base. I jumped at the chance and said YES, YES, YES! Surely to goodness, they’d place me in a park instead of Disney Springs; maybe I’d even be making Hollywood Studios my official home.

They evidently did not think the same thing.

They transferred me to Goofy’s Candy Shop, (located in Disney Springs) where I would have not just had to sell candy but fix and decorate bakery treats. I don’t do food places. I worked a food place once and quickly learned it was not for me, and the thought that people were trusting me to make some of the food, like the candy apples was laughable. I the only thing I can make with food is a Pb & J sandwich.

Let me tell you I tried every avenue I could think of to get out of working at Goofy’s. For instance, Disney isn’t supposed to place cast members with any food allergies work with food. I’m allergic to nuts, and Goofy’s has plenty of nuts, so I figured they would move me to the Christmas shop next door which seemed like heaven compared to Goofy’s.

Wrong.

They just made sure not to put me near the bakery part, which is the only exciting area of Goofy’s.

Then, I tried convincing leaders it didn’t make sense to train me for a new location when I knew all the ends and outs of working at Hollywood Studios.

They didn’t seem to agree with me on that point either.

I cried. 

I begged.

I pleaded.

I cried, a lot. 

I had a bad attitude. (Actually, that’s putting it mildly, I had a terrible attitude.)

Through a lot of prayer and peace that can only come from God, I finally got used to Goofy’s. I still didn’t like it. I always gave away as many shifts as I could. But I found things to enjoy. I found ways to be content with where God had placed me.

Looking back now I realize how much time I wasted trying to make what I wanted work; I took away time from hanging with friends to go to talk and get myself out of the torture I deemed my placement at Goofy’s to be. I did not set a good example as a follower of Christ with my bad attitude. I did not make myself a desirable person to be friends with or for a leader to give more responsibility. I wish I had made a better impression; I wish I hadn’t made such a big deal about where I was placed. I wish, I wish, I wish…

But I can’t go back I can only go forward with what I learned.

Why We shouldn’t Force Our Plans

  1. We may get what we want and realize God was withholding it for a reason
    • Like He did with the Israels when they begged and whined for a King to rule to them because all of the other nations had one. He knew a king would be their downfall, and He was hurt because they already had a King, God Himself, but that wasn’t good enough for them, they wanted an earthly king. So that’s what God gave them, (1 Samuel 8:6-22).
      •  And the Lord told him: “Listen to all that the people are saying to you; it is not you they have rejected, but they have rejected me as their king.  As they have done from the day I brought them up out of Egypt until this day, forsaking me and serving other gods, so they are doing to you.  Now listen to them, but warn them solemnly and let them know what the king who will reign over them will claim as his rights… He will take a tenth of your flocks, and you yourselves will become his slaves.  When that day comes, you will cry out for relief from the king you have chosen, but the Lord will not answer you in that day.” (v7-9,17- 18)
  2. We’re commanded to trust Him 
    • “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
  3. We end up embarrassing ourselves 
    • “Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinion” Proverbs 18:2
    • I made a fool of myself by acting like a baby who didn’t get her way. I believed the lie that I knew the best plan for my DCP and made sure everyone knew my plan. Looking back I’m sure those people I kept telling and whining to became quite annoyed with me, and I feel bad for them having to put up with me.

I can’t stress enough the importance of learning to not force our plans. It will only bring problems; especially if God gives what we want because when the Israelites got their king, they ruined themselves. Everything God warned them about came to pass. All because they thought they knew best and wanted, what they thought was greener grass.

I thought Hollywood Studios was my greener grass, and I still don’t fully understand why God kept me from working there the second half of my program. He did though, and I have to believe He was either saving me from something bad or maybe it’s as simple as teaching me to be content with where He placed me. Either way, I’ve learned this lesson the hard way. But as for entirely living out what I’ve learned not to do that’s another story….


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