Ah, Valentine’s Day. The day of hearts, chocolates, and lots of flowers. The day kids pass out little paper valentines to all their friends, maybe even giving a special one to their ”secret valentine”. I grew up loving Valentines Day. I’d wake up and there would be a present from my father, usually something Disney, and a sweet card to go along with it. Then at school, we celebrated with a small party, where we’d have cookies and other sweets while we got to pass out our special valentines for our fellow students in the classroom. I loved Valentines Day.
Then life happened. My friends and I grew up, I left private school to be homeschooled, and there were no more special parties. Then, my father decided he didn’t want to stick around anymore and left us a few weeks before Valentines Day. The day that used to be so special for me now was tainted and best left forgotten.
I saw no reason to enjoy the holiday anymore. It became just another day. My mom tried to make special, but even she knew it wouldn’t be what it once was for my sister and me.
Then a couple of years ago, I decided I wanted to enjoy February and Valentines Day again. I became tired of trying to avoid and dislike a holiday I once loved. I decided I would make the holiday enjoyable for my mom, sister, and myself, and start creating new memories.
Now, I get those fun valentines that I used to get as a kid, the ones you find at Walmart in various themes, of course I get Disney each time. I get the red, pink, and white M&Ms and any other special Valentines Day candy I choose to enjoy. This year I’ve even started decorating the house with hearts and other Valentine themed decor. And I use the holiday as an excuse to get my family and friends gifts because I love getting gifts for people. Valentines Day can be fun, even for single ladies like me! I’m so blessed with a loving a family and loving friends that there’s no reason I can’t claim them as my valentines!
Sometimes we get so focused on what we don’t have we think we can’t enjoy things like Valentines Day, and that’s what I thought for the longest time. I no longer had a father to be my Valentine, I had no boyfriend to get me chocolates with one of those big tacky stuffed animals. But I had love I could give and show to the people who were in my life. Where does this love originate? It says in 1 John 4:19, “We love each otherS because He loved us first”. God loved us so much He sent His Son to die for us so we might be saved and live with Him in eternity (John 3:16), and that love overflows in us.
We can’t keep it to ourselves.
We know love because He is Love (1 John 4:8).
I have no reason to not celebrate Valentines Day because my True Valentine came and died for me on a cross, His red blood is what washed my sins away. If He’s done that for you then you have every reason to celebrate this Valentines Day, single or not.
(Plus I wasn’t going to miss out on a holiday where I can wear an excessive amount of pink and not be judged for it.)
My personal challenge this year is to make February the month I focus on doing random acts of love. Things I can do that puts others first, makes them feel loved, and that points them to the best of Loves, the truest Valentine, Jesus. Will you join me?